Humans are interesting creatures...this past week I had what started out as a depressing experience but ended up as an opportunity with vast potential. The entire process really made me think about how often we fight to protect the status quo in situations that fundamentally will never be what we want them to be. It's sort of the opposite of that old Groucho Marx joke "I don't want to be part of a club that would accept people like me as a member." Maybe we have some primitive need to be part of the club...even when it doesn't work for us.
One of the ways I figured out the right solution was to face a few hard questions:
1. Am I working as hard as I can on this situation? If the answer is no...then maybe I am not really committed to it.
2. Does the situation (with the people involved) have the potential to become what I need?
3. What will be lost if I walk away?
Honestly...the answers helped me understand that the time had come to move on. The amazing part was as soon as I faced that decision...and chose it...then all kinds of alternatives started coming to mind. I realized I was so fixed on making a bad solution work, that I had closed myself off to all the other amazing possibilities.
Let's face it anywhere you have humans, you'll have conflict. The issue at hand wasn't some massive thing in my life, but I have reached a point where I don't want to spend any more time making bad solutions work. I think the same is true with making art, relationships...you name it...winning the argument isn't the same as making the right choice.
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